Post your bra color = raise awareness for breast cancer?
Post a sexually suggestive status about where you leave your purse = raise awareness for breast cancer??
Post another sexually suggestive status about your shoe size = raise more awareness for breast cancer?
Fake a pregnancy = raise even more awareness for breast cancer?
Alright, ladies, enough. These shenanigans have gone too far. At this point, my original argument that these posts do nothing to help raise any awareness, is now being solidified ten fold. Posting some random, sexual status, purposely excluding men (who also can and do get breast cancer) does not, and will never raise awareness for breast cancer. Wanna raise awareness for cancer? Go find a site that supports breast cancer research, and post the link. Or run in a marathon. Or write a blog about how breast cancer has impacted your life. My point is this: Actually go and raise awareness by doing something other then pretending to raise awareness with a silly, silly game on Facebook.
Furthermore, next month, October, is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month. Did you know that 1 in 3 pregnancies end in loss? Did you know that 1 in every 148 babies are stillborn? So now think about this: How many women do you have on your Facebook list? Do the math. There is likely to be a couple of women or friends on your Facebook that have suffered some sort of pregnancy related loss. Some women, myself included, will have issues carrying babies full term. Some women, like many women I know, will never be able to carry their own child because they suffer from infertility. Imagine, waking up one morning, and seeing all these women all over Facebook posting that they are pregnant. After a loss, or after multiple months or years of trying, it gets difficult to see pregnancy announcements. I remember having to hide people on Facebook when we were struggling after yet another miscarriage. It gets obnoxious, even when it’s real. This has nothing to do with being “bitter”- it has everything to do with the reality that losing a child, no matter the stage in pregnancy, is hard. It has everything to do with the fact that infertility is a heavy cross to bear, and it is painful, emotionally speaking.
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So, if seeing the posts about all the pregnancies wasn’t a slap in the face, finding out that these women were faking pregnancies? Oh, ouch. If only everyone was lucky enough to be naive enough to think that this would be good fun. I’ve watched excited congratulations on statuses; only then to have the poster quickly say that it was a game and they aren’t really pregnant. So the congratulator feels like an idiot. The poster gets to have a giggle at the expense of others who “fell” for it (or just didn’t get the message in their inbox). This doesn’t even include the people who say nothing; who watch as their news feed fills up with overwhelming pregnancies, and then later log on to find it was a hoax. A giant hoax all in the name of raising awareness…for what? Oh right, faking pregnancy for breast cancer. Gotcha.
And, ironically, there is no mention of breast cancer. In fact, I’ve had several people admit they like confusing their family and friends. It’s not an actual advocacy case; it’s just a game where women pretend that they are sneaky and clever because we’re not telling everyone what our statuses mean. People do this all the time; in fact, I know a couple of people who have mastered the art of these types of statuses- generally we call this passive aggressive behavior.
Anyway, congratulations on your fake pregnancy; I’m not any more educated on breast cancer, and I hazard a guess, that neither are you. While “raising” awareness, you have also managed to ignorantly cause someone who has issues with pregnancy, be it loss, or conceiving, pain. Unintentionally, of course.
But it’s all in good fun, right?
I leave you with some awareness regarding Pregnancy and Infant Loss: